Seeing your current boy/girlfriend’s ex when you’re out can be awkward. Especially if you know that they’re not over it yet. There’s the head nod, which acknowledges that they would seriously love to put your face through a meat grinder, and then the quick walk away and purposefully avoided eye contact. Sure, you might at first be tempted to do a little victory dance involving a high-kick and a generous amount of pointing to yourself saying “This guy- Thiiiiiiiiiiis guy”, but that feeling will quickly give way to empathy and the desire to buy them a drink. Shit, man. Remember how much it sucks to feel that way? That sick emptiness inside of you that makes you want to punch the whole world in the face? God, it’s terrible. The “sitting around feeling sorry for yourself and the inevitable over-texting phase” of a recovery cn be brutal. You never wanted a beer that early in the day before that and you never realized the crappy music you actually identified with. Hell, you just cried during a life insurance commercial. What the fuck is up with that?
All you can really do is learn from their example and say to yourself “If/when we break up I’m NOT going to be that way.” You never really know, but it’ll make you feel better. Just try not to embarrass yourself when it does. Make it clean and keep cool.
The aforementioned experience actually happened to me about a month ago and all I wanted to do was hug the guy. That probably would have ended badly.
Seeing your current boy/girlfriend’s ex when you’re out can be awkward. Especially if you know that they’re not over it yet. There’s the head nod, which acknowledges that they would seriously love to put your face through a meat grinder, and then the quick walk away and purposefully avoided eye contact. Sure, you might at first be tempted to do a little victory dance involving a high-kick and a generous amount of pointing to yourself saying “This guy- Thiiiiiiiiiiis guy”, but that feeling will quickly give way to empathy and the desire to buy them a drink. Shit, man. Remember how much it sucks to feel that way? That sick emptiness inside of you that makes you want to punch the whole world in the face? God, it’s terrible. The “sitting around feeling sorry for yourself and the inevitable over-texting phase” of a recovery cn be brutal. You never wanted a beer that early in the day before that and you never realized the crappy music you actually identified with. Hell, you just cried during a life insurance commercial. What the fuck is up with that?
All you can really do is learn from their example and say to yourself “If/when we break up I’m NOT going to be that way.” You never really know, but it’ll make you feel better. Just try not to embarrass yourself when it does. Make it clean and keep cool.
The aforementioned experience actually happened to me about a month ago and all I wanted to do was hug the guy. That probably would have ended badly.
